Saturday, May 4, 2013

Letter D

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I need some advice.

I know that it's perfectly normal for kids to be aggressive little dicks sometimes. They don't have the verbal skills or the life skills to deal with their frustrations. I get it. I do. I know how to deal with it when a kid is 2+ years old. With consistency, firmness, modeling words and behaviors, redirection and time outs.

But what do you do when it's a toddler with basically no words and an extremely short attention span?

 I've been doing a lot of reading, you know "experts" and all. I'm not trying to say that they're (the experts) a bunch a douche bags that don't know half as much as they think they do, but sometimes they don't. I'm gonna try some of the tips they're giving. With an open mind. I hope that we can crack this phase before it takes hold and my kid turns into a dickhead.

What I'm trying to ask is, what did you do when your child hit this stage? Did you beat it? How? What worked, what didn't? With biting, we just said no, firmly (with an unhappy tone) every time. Sometimes  putting our hands over his mouth gently and saying no quietly. It worked. He isn't a biter. 

Just because we got through that stage doesn't mean we're gonna sit by passively waiting for him "to grow out of it". That might never happen, and we are not raising a bully. So what do we do? 

8 comments:

  1. So is the word "dickhead"? Hehe. Okay, sorry to make a joke out of it. Just be patient and be consistent--you will all make it through this phase and be better for it on the other side! (Wow, that was really general, wasn't it...)

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    1. Lol, kind of, but I know what you mean. Like with most things in life it's all about consistency

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  2. Oh I'll say it out loud - the "experts" are douche bags who try to paint all kids with the same behavior brushes. You simply can NOT apply the same techniques to every kid with success.

    You know your kid best - what works?

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    1. Well, I guess consistency....I just want a magic answer ;)

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  3. Redirection. Say no, and then pull out a book or something.

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  4. Bribery. Ass beatings. All of these work.

    -The Insomniacs Dream

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    1. I'm certainly not above bribery, but he doesn't yet seem to care, and I'd like to reserve the right to spank if needed...but I think I might be modeling the wrong behavior if I hit him for hitting ;)

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