Thursday, February 7, 2013

TT Playing With Fire

Valentine's Day is just around the corner and that serves as a reminder that I'm playing with fire.

Let me explain...

Two years ago, over Valentine's Day weekend the hubby made me a delicious dinner. I drank lots of wine. We listened to a lot of LMFAO, did a lot of dancing and a lot of getting down. A couple of weeks later I realized that my period was late (thanks to my awesome ovulation app). So just to be safe I stopped drinking and headed to the doctors office.

I was really nervous. I wasn't ready to be pregnant. I wasn't ready to possibly be responsible for another life. I wasn't ready to be a good role model. Mostly I wasn't ready to push a watermelon through my vagina.

When the nurse came in the room my mind was racing with all the shit I wasn't prepared for, as she wrote my blood pressure down in my chart, on the counter facing the wall, she said to me, "Since your pregnant, the doctor will have to come talk to you and discuss your next doctors visit." and she walked out. My eyes filled with tears from shear terror, just kidding I didn't know what being a mom was really like yet of joy, it stunned me honestly, and I was filled with a peace that hasn't left me yet.

I called my hubby and I could hear him getting choked up with excitement and joy. I told him I'd call him right back because the doctor was coming back in the office.

That's what those first moments were like for me. Just over 38 weeks from that fateful Valentine's Day weekend, I became a mom. It's been a beautiful life sucking blessing.

Now here we are (almost) two years later. With a rambunctious toddler who never stops seriously, he never stops . Joining Weight Watchers to help me lose the baby weight that I have not lost which is all of it but my son and the placenta . Still trying to get back to running. Still trying to get back to sleeping 8 hours a night Animal's doing it, but if I want any time to myself I have to get it while he sleeps. Still learning to work the new family budget. Thinking of all this reminded me that I should be getting my period soon. So I was checked on my ovulation app. First thing I notice is that I'm already a day late according to it, but I'd never been what you call regular, so I *try* not to panic.

The next day joyfully, I start menstruating. Then I notice something. I will be most likely to conceive the weekend before Valentine's day. The time the hubby and I are most likely to be getting down. I didn't/have not resumed taking birth control after my son was born. It can mess with your milk supply and as previously stated that was very important to me. Now that my milk supply is not really important, I just feel done with the pill. So every month I do this dance.

The hubby and I are being super old school and using the (very Catholic) pull out/rhythm method combo.

Plus, I'm getting older. You can't be on birth control your whole life and since menopause is years away I decided tubule ligation is the way to go, for me. I wanted it done right after Animal was born, but my OB/GYN has a strict six month if it's your first rule. I should have done it last summer but I had a bad case of child induced zombie(hood) going. I couldn't get shit down.

So here I am, two year's later. Playing with fire. Maybe it's because we're gluttons for pain we love being parents. Or because we love Animal so much and we want another baby. We both have siblings and feel a little guilty of depriving him from having that wonderful experience. But we would feel more guilty not being able to provide for two children. It's not the day to day I'm worried about, hell we have got A LOT of baby gear. It's the extras like diapers, swim lessons, pal, tutoring, vacations, and the extras that aren't extra at all, like health insurance and a college education. It just wouldn't be fair to Animal, us or this imaginary baby the hubby and I (secretly) long for.

So happy Valentine's Day. Use protection.


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20 comments:

  1. As an only child :( Sad. But I see your point about having two. Do I need to send you condoms for Valentine's Day?

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    1. Lol, no we have condoms. We just don't like them.

      and it is a little sad...

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  2. I highly recommend Mirena, once you make up your mind. It lasts for 5 years and some people (me included) get NO PERIOD EVER! If you want to have another, just take it out and you're good to go right away.

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    1. I'll talk about it with my doctor, I have a consultation visit for the TL, I plan to do this summer...

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  3. Just like Mama always said..."Valentines Day: you never know what you're gonna get. A box of chocolates...or a baby." ;)

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    1. You have a smart mom. Now I always wonder how many late October early November babies are Valentine's gifts ;p

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  4. All three of my children were birthday presents. Now I have an IUD, but can't WAIT to go get a TL. I'm great at growing people, but don't want anymore little ones unless they're midgets running around in animal costumes.

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    1. Lol, this maybe the funniest comment anyone has ever left on my blog. I wish I could RT And star the duck out of it!!!

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  5. Best Valentines message ever-HA HA!

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    1. What can I say? I'm all about the PSAs here! ;p

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  6. Both my littles came as surprises...especially LJ after months of swearing I'd never have another child and taking my BC religiously....I even considered two a day ;-) Now Hubby Dearest has decided to go for a snip-snip and I'm all the happier for it...Condoms are definetly plastic hell! No more littles here unless they come with gold shit in their butts!

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    1. Lucky you, the hubby says he'll get snipped after I do. So under the knife I go...

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  7. LOL, after I had the twins, I had my GYN write a prescription for a vasectomy for my husband. :-)

    PS - we GOT twins because we wanted to give our 1st kid a sibling, and got more than we bargained for due to my classification as AMA - "Advanced Maternal Age."

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    1. What a great idea! I think the hubby would just laugh though...

      PS - your story scared me. I'm gonna be in the advanced maternal age soon...

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  8. aww, sweet story. Thanks for hooking up to the Hump Day Hook Up

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    1. Hahaha, I though of this post when I got my period thismonth ;-)

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  9. Send the hubs to get a vasectomy. That's what I did after our third. It was less expensive and his recovery time was much quicker than mine would have been. He says he "took on for the team." Since I had suffered through 3 pregnancies and squeezed out 3 kids (the last of which came out weighing 10 lbs), I figured it was the least he could do!

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    1. I see your point. I always wanted the TL though AND the hubby is getting his too. ironically with our insurance both our co-pays are the same!

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  10. I totally forgot about this post! this is one of my favorites. Animal won't be so lonely forever, soon he will be in school and then maybe later the cousins will come...and having cousins much younger is way cooler, because you can boss them around.

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    1. I think about this post every month as I anxiously await menstruation (lol).

      I can't wait for cousins! ;)

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