Raising a Scorpio

I have always thought of Astrology as good clean fun.

Something to giggle at and make snarky jokes about. Even though secretly, I enjoy being an Aries and think the descriptions fit me rather well. Still, I take it with a grain of salt, and reason that if I read the descriptions of other signs I would find some similarities in those as well, because they are all rather general. Right?

Recently I noticed that while I have friends from all walks of life, the one thing we all have in common is that we like to drink. This has given me a lot to think about. Is it that I don't want to be judged? They don't either, so hanging out with me is perfect Or is it that all the social gatherings at my place include me mixing drinks? During my musings I thought about the hubby's friends (the ones before me) what do they all have in common? Are they all party animals? Bohemians? Mostly, but actually what they have in common is they are highly educated and most are educators. When I mentioned this to him he laughed and said that was true, but the other thing they had in common is that they are "into" Astrology.

I laughed and said I didn't believe him. Then he said, "You wouldn't believe how often one of my friends says, of course Animal did that...he's a Scorpio". Really? I was intrigued. So I Googled "Raising a Scorpio boy". I was honestly surprised by the plethora of articles.

More surprising was how much of the characteristics of a Scorpio sound like my son. Here are the things that all the articles said, that describe my son (and many other strong willed toddlers). He's intense (has an intense gaze). Charming. Secretive. Physically strong. Strong willed. High energy. Sensitive. Needs lots of discipline. Can be vindictive and manipulating. Or forgiving and generous. Smart. Determined. Testy.

I'm not going into great detail because that would be giving to much credit or thought to something that just doesn't merit it.

Reading through them was a little surreal in that they sound so much like him. He has a need to destroy read one, saying my son would benefit from having magazines to shred and blocks, later legos to build and destroy. When I want to occupy Animal (since infancy, remember he's always been alarming strong) I will give him paper to destroy. Old magazines, ads, receipts. Few things delight him more than destroying a piece of paper. Ever since he had control of his arms and could begin to crawl, I would build things and he would knock them down. We bought him Mega Blocks for Christmas and his greatest satisfaction is from taking the blocks apart.

That is just one silly example.

The parts about how important loving but firm and consistent discipline are for him, are the ones that really got to me. I'm that kind of adult, but when it comes to Animal I feel as though I'm failing him. Not because I don't discipline, but because he doesn't seem to take me seriously. I don't know how to get through to him. The hubby says it's that I'm disciplining him with a weak tone, that I'm not putting my heart into it. Maybe that's true. I'm so conflicted with being gone for so much of his day that it's making me too patient, and ineffective. When the hubby disciplines him, Animal is visibly at attention and you can see sadness flash over his face at his fathers strong tone and intense gaze (Animal often lashes out in anger or excitedness, and his father will say "It's okay to feel angry/excited/hurt, but hitting/biting/yelling/throwing is not how we deal with things. Use your words. Never hit/bite/scream for attention/throw). He listens to his father. He cleans up for him. He calms down for him. He stops his aggressive behavior for him. I have to step up to the plate and do my part to help raise a good kid.

Now, am I reading into it? Maybe. I read through some other signs, he doesn't sound as similar to any other signs. Will I take it to heart? Or with a grain of salt? With a grain of salt, I think. But is my son a Scorpio? As much as mommy is an Aries. We're destined to be friends, it's written in the stars, and I'm not going to lie, I like that.

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